February 15, 2017
Should you forgive a cheater?
Forgiving a cheater may not be the easiest thing to do, but there are several pros and cons to doing it. Let’s take a look at the issue from both sides.
Yes. You should forgive him
Forgiving him means forgiving yourself. Too many women hold themselves responsible for the failure of their relationship. In most instances there wasn’t a single thing they could have done differently to prevent their man from cheating on them. They figure they don’t look good enough, or the other girl was better in some other way. But then when he turns around and does the same thing to the other girl that they did to them, they realize the sleazy bastard was just programmed to behave that way, and they’re better off with someone who is going to give them the attention and respect they deserve.
It makes them feel inferior when you forgive them. If you don’t care that they cheated on you then they have no power over you. A lot of guys who want to act like they’re players do this shit to girls because they feel like it makes cool and powerful. They lie to their faces and tell them they love them, and the girls eat it up, hook, line, and sinker. Then when they find out they got cheated on, they flip out and want to punch the other girl in the face, and key her car. Meanwhile that other girl was getting lied to the exact same way. What you really should do is hook up with his other girl. That’ll teach the bastard how little of a shit you give. And then invite his best friend for a threesome.
No. You should not forgive him
Forgiving him means reinforcing his behavior. Forgiving him is a stupid idea. Firstly, it gives him the impression that it’s ok to treat women this way when it isn’t. What you should do instead is make him pay dearly for what he did. This will condition him to respect other women in the future, while simultaneously making yourself feel better.
Forgiving him means making him think you’re ok with being a doormat. If you want him to know that you’re totally ok with being lied to and having your feeling manipulated for the sake of his sexual prowess then you should go out of your way to pat him on the back and tell him that he’s just a man and doesn’t know any better. That way he’ll know that he’s free to do it again and again.
Should you forgive him for cheating?
All joking aside, that’s entirely up to you. If you do forgive him you should make him aware of how being lied to made you feel and why it’s not ok to toy with people’s emotions solely for the sake of getting something you want from them. While society may say this kind of behavior is ok it isn’t. Being honest with people is the far better road to take and toying with their emotions is never ok. It would serve them right to know what it feels like to be on the receiving end of their shitty behavior. So if you take that road, and I strongly recommend it, you would be justified.